All children at one time or another will misbehave. Misbehavior occurs everyday inside and outside of classroom but the biggest question is why do our students misbehave? There are many different reasons as to why children misbehave and it is important that as educators we understand these reasons and know how to prevent them. Sheila Milnes once stated, “If you learn why your children misbehave, it will give you new ways to try to prevent problem behaviors” (Milnes, 2004).
Children misbehave for various reasons. Due to many behavioral disorders, because of their lack of attention or love at home, boredom, confusion about their school work, lack of confidence, bad home life, low self esteem, need for independence, lack of social skills, lack of guidance and psychological problems or disorders.
Children are often seeking any type of attention they can receive. Children
need to feel loved and thrive when they know that there are people who care about them.
When they do not receive the attention that all children need to receive, they tend to
act out and misbehave. “Children need to feel that they belong to you, to
the family, to the class at school, to a group of friends. They may misbehave to gain
membership or to find out if they will still be accepted. Thus, it is important to let
children know you love them and that they are still part of the family, even when they
behave badly.” (Richardson, Oklahoma State University) When children do not receive
the love and nurture that all children must receive they will do whatever they can
possibly do to receive that attention.
It is important for children to be captivated by their lessons and their work. If they are uninterested they will look for something that will interest them. For example, start talking with a classmate, get up and walk around, use the bathroom, tap their pen or pencil, which in turn will cause a distraction to the teacher and the classroom.
Educators must be aware that all children are different. Children will always misbehave mo matter the age, race, or gender. It is important that educators are knowledgeable about their students and communicate with the parents. It is also important to have the support of parents, community, and from the school. Children must be nurtured. It is extremely important that children understand their expectations. Take the time to explain all expectations. The top two reasons why children misbehave is due to their boredom and lack of attention.
Milnes, Sheila (1994,10). Why Do Children Misbehave. Retrieved December 22, 2008, Web site: http://betterkidcare.psu.edu/ParentsCount/pc21Oct2004.pdf
Richardson, Deborah Why Children Misbehave. Retrieved April 5, 2009, Web site: http://pods.dasnr.okstate.edu/docushare/dsweb/Get/Document-2410/T-2325web.pdf
It is very important to try and understand why children misbehave. We must always be in tune to children’s feelings and interest level in the classroom, home life, or any behavioral and psychological problems they may have and may lead them to misbehave. This is not an easy task. Educators are often too busy, have no patience or interest in why the children are misbehaving. They often just want the behavior to stop and punish without further investigation. This leads to further misbehavior in the future. If we, as educators, take the time to investigate the cause of children’s misbehavior, we will save ourselves a lot of time and frustration in the future and genuinely help these children succeed.